Sunday, May 6, 2012

6 Things You Can Do To Attract Positivity into Your Life: Part 2 of 3

Remember last week’s 2 things you can do to attract positive things into your life? Here’s a refresher if you have forgotten.
1.    Wake up and recite 10 things you are grateful for.
2.    Speak out loud everyday what you want. Pause and pretend you already have it.

Moving on to numbers 3 and 4 on the list, here we go!

3. Use good manners
Simple enough. Just be nice to people. You don’t need to kiss a$$. That would prove to work just the opposite, but that’s another post. You just need to be polite and considerate.  Say please and thank you to absolutely ANYBODY that does ANYTHING for you. This includes your waiter, your child, your spouse, the janitor, your employee, your boss, your friend, the neighbor…ANYBODY! This will put others in a more positive mood around you which will then boost your positive energy and the gift just keeps on giving.

If you can, be the mood setter of every situation you find yourself in. You want to be able to bring others up to where you are instead of them dragging you down. Sincere politeness is one of the tools that can help you achieve this. It manifests positive energy. Positive energy is like food. It can sustain you and just like food when it’s prepared properly; it can be an enjoyable experience rather than simply calories to keep you moving. That’s boring. Energy in general will keep you moving but positive energy will have you happily soaring!

Also, gentlemen, please don’t forsake chivalry. I used to fight this because of my own silly insecurities, but now I’m in love with that elderly man that held the door open for me and my mother at the restaurant the other day. So go ahead and open that department store door for the ladies and wait for them to walk through. Put the lady’s coat on for her. Allow her to order first. Some women may be ungrateful but the majority who appreciate good old-fashioned courtesy will be obliged. Besides, it makes us feminine women feel secure. J (Shout out to my best cuz Kris who I argued with about this back in the day. You were right, I was wrong. You're smart, I'm stupid. You're pretty, I'm ugly.)

4. Be generous
“You get what you give.” “What goes around comes around.” “Karma’s a b*^&#.” “You reap what you sew.” You’ve all heard of these sayings. Obviously it’s a fundamental truth. It’s like the golden rule; treat others as you want to be treated. It is a universal law that absolutely no one can escape from.

This is why generosity is one of the greatest traits you can possess to attract positivity into your life. Of course you don’t want to give just to receive, in fact, that sort of defeats the purpose. True generosity has a heart condition that simply wants to bless, help, and make others happy. When you are truly generous, you can NOT and will NOT ever outrun the treasures that will be given to you.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to seek out your own motives for being generous. Are you generous because you want recognition and glory? Do you give so that others think you are rich and/or nice? Do you try and buy another’s love, approval, or affection? Do you give to others just to get something in return? If you answered yes to any of these questions – OOPS! - you unfortunately won’t be reaping too many positive things out of those motives. That’s okay, change it. Start giving just because people need what you have to give.

Side note: What you give doesn’t have to be monetary or wrapped or material. Some of us are more suited to give a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, advice to lend, or words of encouragement. Give what you know how to give and steadily work on expanding your generosity.

Everyone can use good manners and being generous is a trait that we all can work on. This week focus on using good manners with the people closest to you. Sometimes we are more polite to strangers than we are our own family. Also, try doing two generous things this week that you wouldn’t normally do. Perhaps pay for the people behind you in the drive-thru or stop and help the person broke down on the side of the road.
Thanks for reading! See y’all next week for part 3!

Graciously yours,
In the words of a mother


  1. An attitude of gratitude really goes a long way, and what goes around comes around.